We live in a society that glorifies speed- an illusion that progress should happen quickly. Overnight success, instant results and the constant craving for immediate gratification make it seem like if we’re not moving fast, we’re failing. But the truth is, every journey worth taking unfolds one step at a time. Growth isn’t about giant leaps; it’s about steady, intentional movement forward.
The Climb
Imagine a mountain climber standing at the base of a towering peak. No matter how strong or determined they are, they can’t teleport to the summit.
They must climb-step by step- gripping each rock, adjusting to the altitude, and trusting the process. Life is no different. The only way to reach our highest aspirations is through patience, persistence and the understanding that our path might not look how we though it would, and will never look exactly like someone else’s.
The Trap of Comparison
In the age of social media, it’s easy to feel like we’re falling behind. We see others reaching milestones we haven’t yet touched, and doubt creeps in. But just because someone is further up their mountain, doesn’t mean we’re lost. We have no idea what their path even looked like-maybe it was easier, maybe it was harder. The truth is, our journey is our own, and every step- no matter how small- is progress.
Not only does social media add pressure, but the sheer weight of all the things we feel we should be doing makes it overwhelming. And when it feels overwhelming, it’s harder to start-so we don’t. And that breaks self-trust, which leads to disappointment.
For me personally, I tend to be all or nothing. And it’s not just about reaching a set goal or milestone- it’s everything I feel like I need to do to be good. Positive affirmations, non-comparison, skin care, hair care, eating healthy, working out, talking to friends, spending time alone- the list never seems to end. Sometimes, I feel like I’m drowning in it.
I need to lose weight, but at the same time, I need to build my company. And if I don’t have them both done by tomorrow, my mind tells me I’m failing. I know that’s not true, but it’s my default thinking. I see people on Instagram living in Hawaii, traveling to Europe for the sixth time, buying houses, getting married-and even though I’m happy for them, it makes me feel like garbage. Not because I don’t want those things for them, but because, on my best day, I can’t even think about affording a plane ticket, let alone anything beyond necessities.
But when I stop and rewrite the story my mind is trying to feed me-when I shift it to something like:
“I am beautiful, strong and resilient. I am worthy of love, and I am safe where I am. I am so proud of how far I’ve come, and I can’t wait to see where I go next.”
In that moment, I feel the grasp release. A wave of security washes over me, and I know-deep down-that everything is going to work out.
The Power of Small, Consistent Steps
Another key thing to remember is that on social media, we only see the highlights of someone’s journey. We don’t see the struggles, the setbacks, or the days they wanted to quit. Even Alan Watts didn’t become Alan Watts in a day-or even a year.
Sustainable growth happens through small consistent actions. Instead of “all or nothing” try:
♡ Looking in the mirror and telling yourself you’re worthy of love
♡ Drawing yourself a nice, relaxing bath
♡ Follow that up with drinking a smoothie once or twice a week
♡ Giving yourself five minutes for meditation, yoga or qigong a few days a week
♡ Going on a run when you have time
Next thing you know, your mind and body will start to feel better, and you won’t want to stop.
This same mindset applies to career and life goals. Maybe traveling to Europe is something you dream of, but instead of obsessing over when or how, allow yourself to believe that it will happen. Trust that you will build the business, own the home, and create the life you envision. You don’t need it all today. What do you need today? Maybe a cup of tea. A short walk. A few moments to breathe. Or perhaps setting a small realistic goal for the next month or two.
Releasing Control & Embracing the Journey
Big goals aren’t the problem-it’s the rigid expectation of when and how they must happen that holds us back. The mountain will always be there. There is no rush to reach the top. What matters is that you keep climbing, while also appreciating the journey-celebrating the small victories, learning from the setbacks and embracing the full experience.
It’s easy to stay comfortable in the uncomfortable. It’s familiar; it’s what we know. But there is another way- a better way. By following what brings you joy, what is meant for you will find you. And it won’t feel forced.
There are no shortcuts to meaningful growth. We are here to experience the full spectrum of the human experience. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Where you are on your journey is enough. It is worthy. It is deserving of love and patience.
Final Thought
No one reaches the summit by accident. Every great achievement, every moment of growth, and every personal transformation happens because someone chose to keep climbing-step by step, even when the path was uncertain.
So, wherever you are on your journey, trust that you are exactly where you need to be. The summit isn’t going anywhere, and there’s no rush to get there. Keep moving forward, at your pace knowing that every step is shaping you into the person who will stand at the top one day-strong, wiser, and grateful for the climb.
You are not alone in your journey.
What’s one small step that you could take today?
Thank you all for joining me and being here. I’d love to hear your thoughts- how do you find the balance between setting goals and releasing control? Drop a comment or reach out.
Blessings!
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