There’s a moment in healing when everything feels lighter- when the weight of old wounds finally lifts, and for the first time in a long time, you can breathe. You feel free, expansive, and whole.
But then, just when you think you’ve “made it,”… Something else surfaces. A new trigger. A deeper wound. Another layer you never even knew was there.
Healing isn’t a straight path, and it’s certainly not a destination. It’s a spiral, constantly leading us deeper into ourselves. The work is never done. And while that can feel overwhelming, exhausting- even unfair- it’s also one of the most beautiful truths of being human.
Because what if healing isn’t about finishing?
What if it’s about becoming?
The Cycle of Healing
It starts with a realization- a quiet whisper that there’s something more. A new path opens before you, full of possibility. But where do you go? What’s next?
You figure it out. You step forward. A whole new world emerges. You learn, you heal, you grow. You feel light. Free. You think, this is it.
And then- the second wave hits.
Wait… second what?
The second wave. Then the third. Then the fourth. And it never ends.
I’m not going to lie to you- it’s overwhelming.
For me, when I first started my spiritual journey, I felt unstoppable. I discovered what interested me, who I wanted to be, and I started actively working toward healing. Becoming the best version of myself.
At first, that meant self-care- skincare, hair care, feeling good in my body. Then, it meant changing negative thought patterns, choosing love over fear and embracing a deeper sense of peace. I felt like I was flying high. I thought I had it all figured out.
I was so wrong.
I got knocked off my high house- hard.
I fell into a toxic relationship that nearly erased everything I had worked toward. My light, the one I had worked so hard to nurture, became unrecognizable in just a few months.
When I finally saw what had happened, I was devastated. Everything I had taken pride in- my growth, my strength- felt like it had slipped through my fingers. I blamed myself for it. I hated myself for getting into the situation in the first place.
And when I got out, I felt lost. I kept looking backward, convinced that I needed to return to who I used to be. I used to be motivated. I used to have a solid skincare routine. Not only was I blaming myself for allowing someone else to hurt me- I was also shaming myself for not being the person I was before it all happened.
But healing started when I let go of that story.
Instead of trying to return to the old me, I took things one step at a time. I slowly integrated healing into the person I am now. I had to rebuild myself from the ground up, and for a long time, I was mad about it. But then, one day, I realized something:
Yes, I was rebuilding from scratch. But this time, I had more tools.
The first time I had nothing. But this time, I had a hammer. And the next time I get knocked down, I’ll gain a screwdriver. Then the next, I’ll gain a drill. Then a crane.
With every fall, I wasn’t just breaking- I was learning how to build better and stronger. That’s when I understood… Healing never ends. But it’s not a negative thing, it’s a gift.
One of my favorite poems I would re-read when I was trying to build myself again was:
I started calling that girl back, the girl who loved living. The girl who danced, rather than walking. The girl who has sunflowers for eyes, and fireworks in her soul. I started playing music again, hoping she would come out. I started looking for beautiful moments to experience, so she would feel safe enough to show herself, because I knew she was in there, and she needed my kindness, and my effort to come to the surface again.
Every time we get knocked down; we don’t start over with nothing. We start over with experience, wisdom, and the tools we need to keep going.
So how do we navigate this endless cycle without drowning in it?
Embracing the Unknown
If healing never ends- if there’s always another layer, another lesson, another challenge- how do we find peace in not knowing? Because let’s be real… It’s exhausting. It’s scary. And sometimes, it feels like no matter how much work we do, we’ll never arrive.
But maybe that’s the point.
Maybe healing was never about reaching some perfect, enlightened version of ourselves. Maybe it’s about learning to live– fully, presently- even in the midst of the unknown. The more we resist change, the harder it feels. The more we try to grip onto certainty, the more life reminds us that nothing is certain.
So instead of fearing the unknown, what if we softened into it? What if we stopped seeing the next challenge as a setback and started seeing it as an invitation? An invitation to grow, to expand, to trust ourselves even more.
“The biggest surprise on the soulful journey to authenticity, whether as a philosophy or a spiritual path, is that the path is a spiral. We go up, but we go in circles. Each time around, the view gets a little bit wider.”
– Sarah Ban Breathnach
Because here’s the thing: you’ve already survived every unknown you’ve ever faced.
And you didn’t just survive- you learned, you adapted, you became wiser, stronger, more you.
So instead of dreading the next wave, what if we welcomed it?
What if we had roots so deep, we knew we could weather any storm.
What if instead of saying “Oh no not again,” We said “Okay, I’m ready to see what this is here to teach me.”
What if we trusted that every experience- every fall, every rise- is shaping us into exactly who we are meant to be?
And what if, instead of fearing the uncertainty ahead… we embraced it?
Practical Tips for Navigating the Unknown
It’s one thing to want to embrace the unknown- it’s another to actually do it when fear creeps in. So how do we navigate uncertainty without drowning in it? How do we soften into trust when our instincts tell us to grip tighter? To give up?
Here are some ways to ease into the unknown with more peace and confidence:
♡ Reframe uncertainty as expansion: Instead of seeing the known as something to fear, try seeing it as a space for possibility. Ask yourself, what if uncertainty isn’t here to break me, but open new doors I never would have considered?
♡ Find peace in the present moment: The fear of the unknown is almost always rooted in the future– what might happen, what could go wrong. Ground yourself in the now. Practice mindfulness, breathe deeply, and focus on the things you do know in this moment.
♡ Surrender the “how” and focus on the “what”: You don’t need to control every step of the journey. Set your intention (what you want- the goal), but trust that the how will unfold naturally. Let go of micromanaging the details. Release “the plan.”
♡ Recognize the patterns of your past: Look back at all the times you feared uncertainty… and yet, you made it through. The unknown has never actually stopped you- you’ve always figured it out. Trust that you’ll do it again.
♡ Let life surprise you: Some of the best moments in life come from things we didn’t plan. Give yourself permission to loosen your grip and allow space for the unexpected. Not everything needs a plan. Some things are meant to unfold organically.
♡ Anchor yourself in trust, not control: When you feel the urge to force something, pause. Instead of acting from fear, shift into trust. Ask yourself, what would I do if I believed everything was unfolding exactly as it should? Trust that you are guided and protected. That the universe is working for you, not against you.
♡ Rest when it feels like too much: Sometimes, the unknown feels overwhelming simply because we’re exhausted. Growing and healing isn’t an easy task. It’s okay to pause. To breathe. To step back and find your center before moving forward again.
Ultimately, the unknown is not something to fear- it’s something to engage with.
As Dr. Joe Dispenza describes:
The observer effect in quantum physics states that:
Where you direct your attention, is where you place your energy. As a consequence, you affect the material world, which is made mostly of energy. If that idea is entertained, then you might start to focus on what you want, rather than what you don’t want. If an atom is 99.99999% energy and .00001% physical substance, then we’re actually more nothing than something. So why do we keep our attention on that small percentage of the physical world, when we’re so much more?
Could defining our reality by our five senses be the biggest limitation we have?
If everything is energy, then our thoughts, our focus and our surrender shape our reality far more than our attempts to control ever could.
Conclusion: The Work is Never Done and That’s Okay
Healing isn’t about reaching some final destination where everything is perfect, where all wounds are healed, and where we never struggle again. That place doesn’t exist. And if it did, life would honestly lose its depth, its lessons, and its magic.
The work is never done- not because we are broken or failing, but because we are alive. Growth is constant. Change is inevitable. New challenges will come, and with them, new versions of ourselves that we have yet to meet.
That doesn’t mean we have to be exhausted by the journey. It means we can, learn to move with it instead of against it. We can soften into the unknown instead of fearing it. We can trust that every experience- good or bad- is shaping us into the person we are meant to be.
So when the next wave comes, don’t see it as proof that you aren’t “healed.” See it as proof that you are growing. That you are still here, sill expanding, still learning how to hold yourself through every season of life.
You’re not alone in your journey.
If you are looking for new music, check out this song by Satsang that inspired this blog post.
Thank you all for being here and sharing this journey with me, I would love to hear from you- Drop a comment or reach out!
Blessings, friends.
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